We want to start of by stating that the following article is not meant to inspire you with different parenting techniques, but to present the different types of parenting styles acknowledged by psychology. There are 4 major parenting styles out there, out of which, only one is recommended for a healthy mental development of a child. Please read the following lines carefully, and if you recognize yourself in any of the not recommended parenting styles, you should do more research and change your behavior in order to avoid having a toxic relationship with your child.
What is a parenting style
Before explaining the different types of parenting styles, we wish to better explain what these styles consist of. A parenting style is the ensemble of techniques and strategies used by parents in the process of child rearing. Digging even deeper into this matter, child rearing does not refer strictly to raising a child, but to promoting the child’s development and supporting him physically, emotionally, intellectually and socially, easing the child’s journey to adulthood.
What are the different types of parenting styles
The authoritarian parenting style
Authoritarian parents base their whole parenting system on the fact that they always know what is better for their children. This all-knowing attitude often impedes them from learning new things which could be beneficial for their child’s development. Authoritarian parents are never willing to negotiate, they are restrictive, demanding and unresponsive. Due to their overall cold attitude, the authoritarian parents can’t really bond with their children which results in formal, rather than loving parent-child relationships. It is not uncommon for children with authoritarian parents to always try to escape, to feel incredibly guilty for the smallest of mistakes, to have low self esteem and often to suffer from depression.
The permissive parenting style
As opposed to the authoritarian parenting style, the permissive type involves putting the child’s momentary desires and happiness above anything else. Permissive parents excessively spoil their children. Wanting to be viewed more as friends than parents, permissive parents are unable to say no, and sensing their weakness, their children take control of them. Children with permissive parents often have troubles performing at school and it is not seldom that they have conflicts with authority figures which they don’t recognize. It is important for permissive parents to learn to think of the future of their children, and to learn the proper way of preparing their children for that future and of integrating them in society.
The uninvolved parenting style
As bad as the permissive parenting style is, it is nothing compared to the uninvolved parenting style. Basically, uninvolved parents allow their children to do whatever they please. Whether it is a sight of immaturity from the parents or a sign of lack of interest, this parenting style can be very hurtful for the children who develop self esteem issues and are often forced to grow up sooner than they should.
The authoritative parenting style
Alas, we saved the best for the last. The authoritative parenting style, takes the best out of the three styles presented above. Authoritative parents know how to impose their authority without yelling or punishing. They are firm yet flexible, willing to discuss and even negotiate. They don’t impose rules, but rather they explain the necessity of rules. Authoritative parents are rarely fans of punishments, preferring positive parenting techniques instead.